jenk: (Jen44)
There's going to be major marches in Seattle tomorrow near my office building on 6th & Lenora. Specifically the main May Day march is going down 6th avenue this year, not 4th. And TWO "March on Amazons" at 11am and 2pm that will likely cause traffic silliness. Oh, and I've heard about a Trump rally at Westlake Park at 4pm.

Worse: I have a dentist appointment at 10am in Bellevue, so I can't just get to the office before it all starts. While it would be fun to watch the march down 6th from above...I think I'm going to work from home tomorrow.
jenk: Faye (SleepyCana)
fyi )

jealousy

Feb. 8th, 2010 01:26 pm
jenk: Faye (NotYoungEnough)
Kristine Kathryn Rusch on surviving jealousy - not romantic, but jealousy of other's success at work. One of the examples she gives of someone being jealous:
[A] woman came up to me after a panel [at a con] and screamed at me for ten minutes, calling me every single name in the book. [...S]he believed she was a better writer than I was, and she deserved “fame” more than I did.

Finally one of the convention security people pulled her out of the room. My other panelists were shaken. I was surprised that the screaming had nothing to do with my editorship (as it had other times, mostly because I rejected someone’s story), but with my writing.

I had never met this woman before, although I’ve seen her since.

She also talks a bit about how she has been able to turn the beginnings of her own jealousy of another's success into inspiration:
When I was twenty and still in college, I met a man who wrote part-time for the same organization I wrote for. He was also a nonfiction freelancer. He paid for his apartment, his food, his car, and his clothing out of his nonfiction income. I saw his product at work. He had a great voice and a lot of talent, but he couldn’t spell his own name and his manuscripts were almost unreadably sloppy.

I figured if he could succeed in the cutthroat nonfiction world with those messy manuscripts, then I could with my clean manuscripts. I wasn’t the wordsmith he was, but I was more professional.

My analysis of his work got me started. I wrote for some of the same places he did, and began to wonder how he funded his lifestyle. I wasn’t getting paid enough per article to pay for my apartment and my expenses. Eventually, I moved to larger and larger publications, publications that paid me a month’s worth of expenses per article. It wasn’t until later that I found out that he had supplemented his income writing term papers for students, and (ahem) dealing cocaine. (It was 1980, after all.)

I didn’t take the negative view—that you can never make a living at writing; that you need to deal drugs to make any money at all. Instead, I saw that he was succeeding as a freelancer, getting work published even when he wasn’t trying hard. And that inspired me even more.

Because I hadn’t been trying at all.
I note that Kris' reaction wasn't to hate her coworker, or want to destroy him. Instead she decided to try to improve on how he was doing things, and to work harder.

(I do like that she also found out that his life wasn't fully funded by his writing. Because sometimes you really don't know everything.)
jenk: Faye (Default)
...the elevator is closed for maintenance while they get water out of the pit and a workman managed to set off the fire alarm while messing with the electrical panel.

We were all down the stairs within a few minutes. Not bad.
jenk: Faye (Meditation)
Not working late today....
Being able to take time out of [normal] time...
Celebrating the good, and letting go of the bad.
Brooke & John and Vixy & Tony & Betsy, for sharing their music.
Spotting the elusive [livejournal.com profile] hisfyappah husband.
The sunlight we've had this week.
Allergies abating.
Stretches.
Laughter.
[livejournal.com profile] dianthus, [livejournal.com profile] jw1776, and [livejournal.com profile] skydancer ... for helping me stay sane.

tweets

Oct. 31st, 2008 11:06 pm
jenk: Faye (Default)
  • 09:45 Today I have rust-colored sweater, black pants, and "moon" pendant.
  • 09:46 Thanks to Jen W we have a bowl full of candy in the "Jen Team" seating area.
  • 09:51 (I went for "seasonal" not "costume")
  • 13:40 So far two little pink care bears, a pumpkin, and a caterpillar have dropped by my desk....
  • 14:31 iGoogle's weather forecast shows nothing but rain.
  • 17:07 Lord Peter group starts new read-through of all books/stories tomorrow :) http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LordPeter/
  • 17:08 First book is online - http://tinyurl.com/5nh5hq

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jenk: Faye (working)
[Poll #1277983]

New Office

Oct. 13th, 2008 11:38 am
jenk: Faye (Default)
Week of 9/29 - 10/3
Pack up contents of cube and tech library; answer questions for others in software group.

Week of 10/6 - 10/10
Join most of the rest of the office in working remotely while our furniture is moved to the new office in the next building over.

Morning, Monday, 10/13
First day in new office. Brought in new cleaning wipes to scrub down new desk; made sure I had Benadryl to supplement my normal Claritin to deal with new carpet, paint, etc. Have unpacked my stuff, will be bringing in a plant and maybe an old Microsoft poster from home. Wifi's down so I convinced my machine to talk to the net via an old-style cord. Oh, and it's raining.

Afternoon, Monday, 10/13
Work? Or unpack the tech library?

tweets

Aug. 21st, 2008 12:02 am
jenk: Faye (Default)
  • 18:31 On working where it makes sense - tinyurl.com/5pjkb6
  • 19:36 Guy at bus stop would NOT take no for an answer. Polite, flattering, persistent vampire.
  • 19:42 And oh JOY he was on the same bus.

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jenk: Faye (sleepy Cecilia)
Sleepy. Did way too much sleep late over the weekend. Need to get back to only sleeping an hour late on the weekends...or not sleep late at all...sigh.

-o-

Tricky Pixie show was awesome. I was awed to be a small part of it. Also got to talk with people and see folks I hadn't seen in a while. A bit disappointed that my tweets from the show took hours to show up in Twitter, but that could be as much about my phone's SMS as Twitter.

-o-

Got concrete proof that dumbbells are working: When [livejournal.com profile] skydancer bought some old monitor speakers from [livejournal.com profile] suddenlynaked last December, I couldn't lift them. Now they're pretty easy to lift and carry. One at a time, at least. :)

-o-

Work gave me a new work-logo'd water bottle. It's a Camelbak this time, and I'm not sure how well our orange company logo looks on the grey plastic. But hey, new trinket, and it's big enough to water my plants.

They used the bottles as a thank-you trinket for filling out insurance forms. Yes, we're changing providers Aug 1. So "just in case" there's trouble getting our cards / paperwork in order by the 1st, it's suggested that we fill scripts, etc this week. May need to find an old Explanation of Benefits form that shows how much of our deductible we've paid this year so far so it can be transferred to the new carrier, too....
jenk: Faye (FayeAtComputer)
WikiHow chose to highlight "How to Enjoy Your Job" on a Monday. Discuss.
jenk: Faye (Testers)
  • 16:43 Downloading yet another IE 6 VHD. Bonus: IE 8 beta VHD.
  • 16:52 Fyi - IE VHDs - tinyurl.com/y64upm

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jenk: Faye (ItsACompany)
  • 11:48 Interesting read on how some corporate cultures thrive on fear - tinyurl.com/6p5cam
  • 19:43 At crossroads waiting for iron man to start. :)
  • 19:47 Remember when there were just ads for movies before the movies not cars?

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jenk: Faye (read)
From a review of Seducing the Boys Club: Uncensored Tactics From a Woman at the Top by Nina DiSesa:
To my mind, the most illuminating comments in [the] book come from James Patterson, a former advertising mogul who now writes best-selling mystery fiction. Ms. DiSesa reports that Mr. Patterson urged her to think of life as a game in which we juggle five balls labeled Work, Family, Health, Friends and Integrity.

“One day you understand Work is a rubber ball. You drop it and it bounces back,” Mr. Patterson is quoted as saying. “The other four balls are made of glass. Drop one of those, and it will be irrevocably marked, scuffed, nicked and maybe even shattered.”
- from The New York Times
Also in the Business section is an article on employee clubs that highlights Boeing's wine & beer making club. :)
jenk: Faye (working)
In 2006, Catalyst looked at stereotypes across cultures (surveying 935 alumni of the International Institute for Management Development in Switzerland) and found that while the view of an ideal leader varied from place to place — in some regions the ideal leader was a team builder, in others the most valued skill was problem-solving. But whatever was most valued, women were seen as lacking it.

Respondents in the United States and England, for instance, listed “inspiring others” as a most important leadership quality, and then rated women as less adept at this than men. In Nordic countries, women were seen as perfectly inspirational, but it was “delegating” that was of higher value there, and women were not seen as good delegators.
- from "The Feminine Critique" in today's New York Times
I end up wondering if women are perceived as being less good at what's most important, or if certain skills are considered "less important" because women are considered to be good at them....
jenk: Faye (read)
This article on emotional intelligence (EQ) grabbed my attention:
You probably overestimate your emotional intelligence. Most of us do. You could get into real trouble when your EQ is extremely low — like posting naked photos of yourself [...] Most of us are not doing insanely stupid things. We are just doing a series of smaller EQ mistakes day after day.

At some point, if your EQ is too low, you will hit a wall. Most people notice the wall when they can’t get a job, because today, the job hunts that are most successful are based on networking skills — in other words, EQ. But here are other areas of the workplace that are becoming more and more important. And success in each of these three areas depends heavily on EQ.
Some tips from the same writer on making social stuff work for you:

Benefits of being a partial chameleon
Think hard about how you approach a group. Do you hope that the group conforms to you or do you conform to the group? As long as you respect the people in the group, conforming to them enough to form a bond is not a bad idea. [...] But you can find pieces of yourself that match up with just about everyone, if you are in-tune with yourself and other people.

5 ways to be better at office politics:
  1. Don’t try to change or resist company culture including dress, communication styles and office hours. Being different does not work.
  2. Practice self-awareness. This is a life-long task and every day you can become a little bit more aware of how people perceive you. Just doing your job is not enough. You need to do it in a way that makes a positive impression on everyone else.
  3. Manage your stress levels so you can avoid emotional displays of inconsistent behavior and inconsistent messages. Most emotional outbursts come from unmanaged stress.
  4. Be approachable all the time – in your cube, in the hallway, even in the bathroom.
  5. Network before you need to network. Being good at politics means that you are good at relationship building, and you can count on a wide range of people when you need them.
What do these things have in common? Well, besides enough self-discipline to carry them out? I would say it's about providing a consistent experience for your coworkers. Yes, even #1 - if you really can't operate the way they do, then you probably need to find a new job.

Being likeable is a big part of office politics.
Most of us have to work at being likeable. Fortunately, [research] shows that the biggest impediment to likeability is not caring. So if you “just decide you want to do better,” you probably will.
Why is this important?
[P]eople judge your work skills as incompetent if you are not likeable — no matter what your work skills are. It may not be fair, but it’s what people do.
If people enjoy interacting with you, that will color the rest of the transaction. Plus, if you enjoy the interaction, that's a bit of enjoyment to your day you otherwise might not have had.
jenk: Faye (Default)
Again from the daily calendar.
One of the most fundamental problems in organizations, including families, is that people are not committed to the determinations of other people for their lives. They simply don't buy into them.
-o-

The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don't like to do. They don't like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose. — E.M. Gray.
jenk: Faye (working)
A few articles from Psychology Today

When Persona Aces Person
How much of yourself is appropriate for your office?

Managing the Self
Self-control can be tiring.

The Poker Face
"The successful candidate will mask his true feelings, negative and positive, in the name of professionalism."

And from the Wall Street Journal: "OMG &mdash My Boss Wants to 'Friend' Me On My Online Profile"

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