grown-up meme

From noelfigart:

1. What bill do you hate paying the most?
Taxes...largely because of the zillion-little-details part.

2. Where's the best place to eat a romantic dinner?
Our kitchen.

3. Last time you puked from drinking?
I don't think I ever have. ( Read more... )

Megapixel myth?

I thought this was interesting. I know several folks who read this are into photography, including one pro.

( For an industry that’s built on science, the technology world sure has its share of myths. Thousands of people believe that forwarding a certain e-mail message to 50 friends will bring great riches, that the gigahertz rating of a computer is a good comparative speed score, or that Bill Gates once said "640K of RAM ought to be enough for anybody." Then there is "The more megapixels a camera has, the better the pictures." For the average consumer trying to decide between 5 megapixels and 8 megapixels on similar cameras: go for the 5. It will save a little bit of money and a lot of hard-drive space. )

Ted Haggard: Why not bi?

Apparently the newest wrinkle in the Ted Haggard flap is that he has gone from gay to straight in three weeks. According to "ex-gays", it took them years.

So why isn't anyone asking if his inclinations - if not his actions - might be bisexual?

Assume that he's not seeing men anymore. Assume he's been interested in both men and women all along. Assume that he's "committed" himself, brainwashed himself, into rejecting sex with men. Never mind whether he's been mostly attracted to men in his life: if he has the capability of arousal with both, then, physically speaking, he's attracted to both.

So he calls himself hetero. Because in his mind, if he ain't with men, he's not gay.

This would also explain his assertion that he can choose whether to have sex with men or women, because for him it has been a choice all along.

He may never identify himself as bisexual*. It might help his mental health if he did. But then again, considering his other espoused beliefs, it might not.

*He probably never self-identified as a lying druggie, either.

Seven habits calendar, again

Perhaps a sense of possessing needs to come before a sense of genuine sharing. Many people who give mechanically or refuse to give and share [...] never have experienced what it means to possess themselves, their own sense of identity and self-worth.

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You can't give what you don't got.