Memorial

Mar. 12th, 2006 07:38 pm
jenk: Faye (wedding)
The memorial service was yesterday. Overall I think it went well.

Worry that came true: Not many people went to brunch (18) There were more worries that didn't come true. ) Jan did a terrific job on the eulogy. A few people commented on the music being a good choice. It was a mix of family, Mom's friends from the neighborhood, and former "daycare kids" and their parents.

My cousin Linda told me her godmother welcomed her into "the club of motherless daughters" at her mother's funeral. Linda assured me I wasn't alone, and to feel free to call or email if I have questions or problems adjusting to club membership. I thanked her. I also thought of [livejournal.com profile] dianthus, [livejournal.com profile] cooncat, and others I know who are also in the club, and have already been welcoming. :)

Afterward I came home, showered, and puttered about the house a bit. Some friends came over for pizza. I'd planned to get out Fluxx or Apples to Apples but I forgot. Guess I had too good a time or something...

Thanks for the good wishes, energy, prayers, candles, and so on from y'all. Tomorrow I go back to work. Maybe I'll be able to, you know, really FOCUS on work. I hope so.
jenk: Faye (working)
Done:
  • Cremation complete. Urn has been placed in the Columbarium at Evergreen-Washelli.
  • Death notice submitted to the Times & P-I.
  • Ceremony organized.
  • Text of program set.
  • Music selected for the service and for "bumper" (before/after the service).
  • CD made & labeled.
  • Sent Aunt D the text of her reading to practice with.
  • Gave Jan a copy of the ceremony to practice with (she still has to write the eulogy, but that's hers to do).
  • Asked about previewing the movie; probably can on Friday.
  • Sent a gift basket to the staff of the nursing home with a thank-you card.
Still to do:
  • Actually print the programs. Kinko's here I come...
  • Buy guestbook.
  • Get a black half-slip. (New rayon skirt, tulips on a black background - I don't want to risk anything showing through)
  • Warn Marie Callendar's that we may get there earlier than we thought.
  • Made plans for lunch tomorrow
  • ???
I'm sure it will come to me. :) But writing this out has been a bit relaxing all on its own. Yay relaxing. I hope I will feel less freaked soon. This tired-but-frentic feeling is getting on my nerves.

I've also been taking time to be with people I care about. The "worker" part of my brain tweaks a bit at me being social when I'm less productive in getting work done. Normally, if I'm slowed down the way I have been, I'm sick or overworked, and need to more rest. But now isn't normal. Rest is good but so is being with people who care. Relaxing with people I trust is rather restful right now, actually...

Ok, going to light some candles and take a bath now. Night...

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